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Men have been socialized to avoid letting others in to their internal world - as well as encouraged to not have an internal world in the first place. What does it take to get these reluctant men to come for help? How does the therapist make them comfortable enough to stay and benefit from therapy? 

Oftentimes, the couple that comes in for help with their troubled relationship is comprised of two quite different personalities. One partner may be a homebody who seeks calm, predictability, and the comfort of the familiar who is with a partner who craves the new and exciting.   

As Neil Sedaka famously sang, "Breaking Up is Hard to Do".  Sometimes, a couple needs to end their marriage or other committed relationship. They may require a therapist's help to do so to avoid a traumatic break up. 

It can be, unfortunately, all too easy to hurt the ones we love the most, especially when we are trying to create personal and psychic space for ourselves in the constant presence of our partner or other family members. 

How should a partner's insistence on having everything he wants when he wants it be confronted in couple therapy? When should the therapist jettison her neutrality and call it as it is?     

How does the therapist working with couples for the first time learn how to get two people who are very unhappy with each other on a constructive path to meaningful change in their relationship? 

When is it helpful to use humor in the treatment situation? When should the therapist's desire to say something funny be contained? Is a cigar just a cigar sometimes?

There are times during treatment when sharing personal information about the therapist or letting a client in on some aspect of the therapist's emotional experience can be powerfully therapeutic. Are there guidelines for such self-disclosure on the part of the therapist?